I Will Always Remember

I was with Uncle Gus when he passed and I instantly felt a void in my life.  Uncle Gus and Uncle Elmer have been in my life since I was born. He was my mother’s oldest brother and they talked on the phone almost every week. We were all very close and spent many holidays with them over the years.  When I think of Gus, I think of how fashionably he dressed, his powerful voice, and the eliquent words he used.  He spoke Spanish like a true Spaniard (very formally) as he had learned as a child.  He and Elmer were always fun to be around.  Some of my happiest memories as a child were with them.  They would take many of their nieces and nephews to amusement parks, museums, shows, the circus and many more places.  Uncle Gus would line us all up and give us instructions on what we were going to do and how he expected us to act.  I don’t remember any of us not listening to him or disrespecting him in any way.  We always had a great time. Gus and Elmer enjoyed life to the fullest over the years. One of Gus’s favorite sayings was “it never rains on my parade”.

A couple of years ago, Pat and I moved Gus and Elmer to Marco Island to be with us, as their health was failing. They both loved it here and enjoyed their view of the water, dolphins, and birds. We were happy to see them enjoying what they could and to relieve Gus from all the responsibility of caring for the two of them. After all, these two men have helped so many others during their lives. They now needed help and we were glad we were able to be there for them. It gave me a chance to spend more time with them and to learn more about their lives. Gus told me many stories about his life, some of which I’ve never heard, and how the world has changed. He was a very wise man and still very creative. He decorated their apartment and made flower arrangements for every occasion. We would watch him go around the apartment decorating and doing all his little chores. Elmer would watch him and smile, especially when Gus was humming. That meant Gus was content and happy. That will be a memory I will cherish forever.

I will miss my dear Uncle Gus. His laughter, his voice, his wisdom, his smile, his love of nature and life, his love of family, and so many more things. I feel blessed that he was my uncle and in my life. May you rest in peace, Uncle Gus. You may be gone but never forgotten. The memories will stay with me and you will be in my heart forever.

1 Comment

  1. December 8, 2012  6:04 am by Liz and Martin Callingham Reply

    My Mother met Gus and Elmer on a Shakespeare study course in Stratford Upon Avon, England in the early 80's. She enjoyed their friendship ubtil she died. We met Gus and Elmer too and when Mum died we contacted them again. They came to see us in Soho London and we visited them in New York and managed to catch up on a few other occasions - a day in Southampton when they were cruisng. We so enjoyed their company and it is very sad to hear that Gus has died. We remember the assiduous card sending for Birthdays and Christmas- what an example to us all! But above all we will remember Gus for his generosity and wisdom. A long life well lived. Thanks from London. Liz and Martin Callingham

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